In every relationship we tend to recall the more memorable/traumatic moments of its timeline. The day your child was born, the day you got married, the day you first met the love of your life, the day you had a major fallout with a loved one, a day of accident or misfortune both of you suffered.
But just because the incident sticks in our memory doesn't make it the most important moments to frame the relationship. The day you profess your love to a loved one is just an outcome of the many days of conversations, going out, being in each others' company, finding ways to make each other happy. Or the day the manager reviews the individual is just an outcome of the many conversations before (or the lack of those conversations!) that big review day meeting.
And we tend to value them lesser because it isn't memorable or novel. And we could tend to dismiss them as unimportant. But is these little moments in high volume that cause the biggest impact on our relationships.
Conversely if you wish to foster a deep and meaningful relationship with someone, don't aim for the 'Grand Gestures' that are few and far between. Instead look to make those minute but multiple 'nudges' of kindness, compassion and love towards the other person/s to turn things around with them.
Only Mother Teresa could've put it so eloquently.
"Not all of us can do great things. But we can all do small things with great love."
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